Having multiple irons in the fire stops your needy behaviours and Oneitis errors. New leads in your phone, lots of different girls to text and date, a handful of girls you’re sleeping with on rotation…all of these things will make you more attractive to girls.
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy – the more abundance you have, the more swagger you radiate which girls pick up on, leading to more abundance. The Nice Guy doesn’t realise that any one girl will lust after you more if she knows you’ve got other girls wanting your attention.
Stop putting all your focus on the “one special girl” and instead keep multiple girls on the go. Remember, the moment a girl is put on a pedestal by you, she is automatically looking down on you. Instead let her see that you’re desired by other girls (pre-selection). Let her feel the glorious pangs of jealousy caused by that competition. You are the prize that she should long to win.