Be her lover or her provider. Choose one – it’s your decision. The girl is your mirror so she’ll go along with which one you present yourself as at the start.
If you follow this blog and my material then you’ll hopefully know how and why girls have this dual-mating strategy written into their DNA. Being in the Secret Society is all about your role as a lover, which I’ve written about extensively here.
But let’s consider the providers. The men who compensate for a lack of Sexual Market Value (SMV) in most areas with literal resources. They’re buying approval and negotiating sex with cash, gifts, holidays and rewards. “If I take you to Rome then you will sleep with me.”
You could say that it’s a convoluted form of prostitution, which confirms a man’s beta status and repulses women on a hindbrain level because of this. “But Tom, isn’t all sex just a value exchange, aren’t we all providers?” a guy will usually ask. No, because sex as a lover is raw, passionate and validating. She’s sexually attracted to you. Sex as the provider feels inherently inferior. Just like paying for a lap dance or a hooker your body knows that it’s transactional. She’s hustling you:
The irony (that players take advantage of) is that being a rich guy in the West is now a Demonstration Of Lower Value (DLV). With girls having their own financial freedom then providers are regarded as redundant and unnecessary at best, grovelling and sad at worst.
So take off the flashy watch. Forget the pressed shirts and pocket squares. Replace the pimp pad dream with some bad boy banter. Learn to seduce with your charm rather than your credit card. Get her into bed with your frame, not your Ferrari. Be her bad boy lover, not her beta bank account.