Frame Tests 101

Frame Tests 101 - Daygame Basics


“In any relationship between two people, the one who cares the least holds all the power”

Principle of Least Interest


Frame control is central to everything I teach. Is she in your frame (alpha) or are you in her frame (beta)? Who is qualifying to who? Who is more reactive? Who needs the other more?

A girl is hardwired to test a guy’s frame repeatedly to see if he’s the real deal. In pickup this is known as “shit testing.” I prefer the term “frame testing” as it better explains what is actually going on.

Frame tests are healthy and normal. It’s only beta guys who are confused and blindsided by them, wishing she’d stop as they fail them time after time. Alpha guys understand that all humans frame test each other to see who has the power. They welcome such tests as a chance to solidify their alpha position.

An experienced pickup artist will be very aware of the most common frame tests that a girl will give you during the daygame, texting and dating. More importantly, he’ll have stock responses ready to reply with which pass her tests. This is known as reframing.

So what are the ways of reframing tests from girls (or guys)? First let’s consider how to fail a frame test. Most of the questions are in fact loaded / rhetorical in nature and their purpose is to try and get you to react. Just by answering them logically means you’re justifying yourself and playing defence.

Remember the Principle Of Least Interest: the one who cares least holds all the power. Slow down, lean back, smile and don’t get reactive or defensive. Choose from one of the following two ways of passing the frame test:


  1. Ignore. Act as if the question has never been asked. Carry on the conversation in the direction you want

  2. Agree & Amplify. Give a clever cocky funny answer that makes a mockery out of their question


Passing her many frame tests takes practice. It’s a normal knee-jerk reaction to answer if someone asks you a question, but if you want to pass these tests then you need to get used to reframing rather than justifying.

Here are my three videos that go over the most common frame tests you’ll encounter and how to reframe them:


Daygame Frame Tests:

  • I’ve got a boyfriend…
  • I’m sorry but I’ve got to go…
  • Do you chat up girls on the street all the time?
  • How old are you?
  • Why don’t you give me your number?


Texting Frame Tests:

  • [She doesn’t reply to the initial message]
  • [She declines your date request]
  • Why don’t you come and meet my friends and I?
  • Sorry, I’m going to be late…


Dating Frame Tests: 

  • Sorry I’m 30 minutes late…
  • [She wants to take you to her bar]
  • [She chooses the seats she wants in the venue]
  • [She keeps the conversation in chit chat mode]
  • [She rejects your kiss attempt]

5 thoughts on “Frame Tests 101”

  1. Sir Tom, i couldn’t agree more, i am a fan since 2015 and your materiel is the real deal, this is why i am asking you this,in a relationship, i believe that there is another type of shit test, it’s testing boundaries, our boundaries as a male in a relationship, for exemple she tells you that she is going out to her X birthday or that she is going out to party with her male friend, i don’t think an alpha would just agree on this, i tjink in thid case he has to defend his boundaries as any alpha male in nature does. What are your ideas about this ?

    1. With a strong frame she shouldn’t be going out to “party with a male friend.” By this point something’s gone wrong. The only Game solution now would be to “soft next” her. Go cold. Be distant. You have to make her chase again.

      1. Sir Tom, thank you for your answear, im not willing to show off as an extremist, but what if she wants to go to the club only with her female friend ? This one is really hard for me to answear !

        1. Mate, your making decisions from a point of Oxycontin, dont be blinded by it, we all make this mistake and we all learn it the hard way, sometimes its so blinding that we can make this mistake many times… If she is going out with a friend to a club without you sorry to say but she has escalated the situation… either you escalate it up more or exit… she is clearly not interested in a relationship and I can bet you she is younger than 25… Go for older girls and 6’s or 7’s if you want to be nice… and then still you cant be too nice… the hotter they are the more experienced you need to be, this is harsh but true, if your too sensitive for this then toughen up or you will endure mass amounts of pain learning the hard way…

      2. Agreed, its generally the trap that guys fall into after falling into the cloud of love and Oxycontin, in my opinion after stopping fapping to porn it solved a lot of issues for me, we need testosterone or your going to battle 10x harder than you should be…

        Go cold, move on, talk to other girls…

        If you created enough rapport and connection, and or fucked her she will come back…

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