The main difference between a guy who gets good at daygame and someone who gets great at it is how he deals with his state control. Progress in pickup happens in spurts and then plateaus rather than being linear. It’s during these plateau periods when many hustlers get despondent.
Why aren’t bigger wins coming sooner? Why is he still finding “no” girls? How come he still has to approach as much as last year? Why can’t girls just ‘play fair’?
Emotions like entitlement, jealousy and bitterness rear their ugly heads as an intermediate feels like he’s standing still or backsliding. He begins to blame the plateaus on the girls, rather than recognising they’re an entirely normal part of the learning process.
Negative vibes can snowball as a daygamer spends too much time online and not enough time interacting with girls infield. He goes from being proactive and philosophical to whining and feeling like the victim.
How can you break through this? First of all recognise that the plateaus are normal. Take some time off to hibernate and rejuvenate (I usually take a month off in the summer and the winter). Write down all the year’s victories, not only the notches. How many sets did you do? How many numbers did you get? How many dates did you go on? How many of the girls came back to yours?
“Great pickup artists have short memories” as the saying goes when it comes to the ‘rejections.’ Don’t play the victim and dwell on blowouts, flakes or near misses. There’s so many more girls out there to approach, so many more positive experiences to be had.