Good vs Great

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The main difference between a guy who gets good at daygame and someone who gets great at it is how he deals with his state control. Progress in pickup happens in spurts and then plateaus rather than being linear. It’s during these plateau periods when many hustlers get despondent.

Why aren’t bigger wins coming sooner? Why is he still finding “no” girls? How come he still has to approach as much as last year? Why can’t girls just ‘play fair’?

Emotions like entitlement, jealousy and bitterness rear their ugly heads as an intermediate feels like he’s standing still or backsliding. He begins to blame the plateaus on the girls, rather than recognising they’re an entirely normal part of the learning process.

Negative vibes can snowball as a daygamer spends too much time online and not enough time interacting with girls infield. He goes from being proactive and philosophical to whining and feeling like the victim.

How can you break through this? First of all recognise that the plateaus are normal. Take some time off to hibernate and rejuvenate (I usually take a month off in the summer and the winter). Write down all the year’s victories, not only the notches. How many sets did you do? How many numbers did you get? How many dates did you go on? How many of the girls came back to yours?

“Great pickup artists have short memories” as the saying goes when it comes to the ‘rejections.’ Don’t play the victim and dwell on blowouts, flakes or near misses. There’s so many more girls out there to approach, so many more positive experiences to be had.

5 thoughts on “Good vs Great”

  1. This is a very good point that has to be made because it is derived from mature reflection.

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    1. After reflecting further on this I have to be honest and say I am surprised there are so many betas getting butthurt by the actions of girls. I like the “own it” video, and sure I understand some guys can get jelaous and all that, but again as Tom frequently makes clear: this is because of scarcity.

      I am 38 years old and I still fall into the “special girl” fallacy at times. Detach your emotions from the process and enjoy the process not the shag (intellectually). Now having said that, I sometimes go “beast mode” and “attack” the “special girl” full power with intent and attention, sometimes that gives results, sometimes it scares the living shit out of them. I would say it does NOT work more than it DOES work.

      I know Tom hates personal development, but natural betas should find a internal balance in my golden opinion before hunting the big game.

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