In It For The Long Haul

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Being a long-term bachelor and an active pickup artist is not for everyone. Many dabble, drop out, settle down or run for the hills to focus on their “inner game.” The majority of daygamers get a girlfriend, switch to monogamy and eventually get married. Very few remain single, year after year, and keep cold approaching.

In my Black Sheep series of posts I explain why I’m in it for the long haul and answer the most common objections to being a long-term player. You’ll be lonely. It’s a shallow existence. You’ll be unhappy. What about kids? 

I’ve spoken before about why I’m not “retiring” from daygame pickup for at least another decade, until I’m 50 years old. Even after that I hope to still be out there approaching – I know of eight daygamers right now who are 50+ and successfully gaming on the streets across the world.

No marriage. No kids. No monogamy. Being a pickup artist is the path I’ve chosen and I’ve gone all in. As the saying goes, you can’t be half a gangster.

11 thoughts on “In It For The Long Haul”

  1. And that is why I have the most respect for you Mr Tom Torero. You are not just talking about this lifestyle but you are living it fully and showing us the videos for how to do it for real. Keep on hustling as long as you can:D

  2. But why not be 100% a gangster ?

    You describe only two ways: Bachelor (with sacrifices: biological failure, no kids, etc..) and Monogamy (sacrifices: lose of skills, depression, etc..).

    But what about the long con: Having a wife, kids, and being a real hustler by having other women on the side. I don’t know if it’s politically incorrect to discuss about that with english guys but in France, we are known to be libertaires. The only king of France/President who didn’t have a mistress was decapitated. Not that it has any correlation… or may be it does ? 😉

    1. You misunderstood Tom’s post I think. He says be 100% gangster. Marriage and cheating is the opposite of gangster. Tom says don’t hide your dick and go all in! He does NOT think of it as biological failure, that’s the critics he mentions lol

      1. But at the end having kids and cheating is the only thing I see of winning it all without sacrifices (besides your wife being hustled like the french queen used to be)

      2. Spot on. Cheating on a wife is the beta option. Openly being a player and her lover means you’re the guy girls cheat with, not on. Once you realise the Secret Society exists, why would you pretend it didn’t? 😉

    1. 40-60% of all married individuals cheat at some point (US/UK data), and that’s most likely an underestimate. Daygamer or no daygamer, when he’s in a relationship it’s fast backsliding to beta behaviour. Repeat after me….humans are not monogamous, humans are not monogamous….

      1. ^ Agreed with this. I have a red pill friend who occasionally cheats on his girlfriend, but he desperately wants to only want her. Telling someone one thing (that you’re monogamous) and living something else introduces a tonne of cognitive dissonance.

  3. women are not monogamous – thanx God! Tom is a man of New Age – fucking awesome age, golden Era of Mankind…


      1. red pill reading for Golden Era or how maestro once sad “I know that I have lived because I have felt, and, feeling giving me the knowledge of my existence, I know likewise that I shall exist no more when I shall have ceased to feel.” Giacomo Casanova

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