A really encouraging email I received today from Mr A in Australia who’s been using daygame as therapy for bouts of the black dog. Hope it inspires readers of the blog who are still procrastinating about trying some Street Hustling. Great stuff Mr A, stay horny my friend 😉
I hope you can spare a few minutes to hear my story. I came across your videos on Youtube about 9 months ago. Over the last 3 years I have gone in and out of cycles of clinical depression due to a long term relationship ending, lossing my job, lossing close friends and family through terminal illnesses and my general extremely poor form with the opposite sex in recent years. As well as reason I can’t even explain, the black dog just gets ya sometimes from nowhere. I fell into a dark hole and felt like there was no way out. Bed ridden for long periods of time with no drive to even go outside.
One day I said fuck it. Sold nearly all my stuff and decided I would travel the world as a minimalist. I’ve been into over 50 countries and did a 20 000 km trip around Australia. I thought forget relationships and women, I’m going traveling. That was until I got to the Czech Republic and fell in love with a Czech girl (she picked me up). Of course it was doomed with my neediness and Oneitis behaviour. After a few months of probably the best sex of my life and the only sex I had in over 18 months I was pretty shattered when it came to a end. Back into the depression cycle again.
It was around that time I came across your videos. At first I was skeptical and thought no way I could do that being a bit of a shy and introverted guy. I left it at that and continued on with my traveling. I remember two places where I lost it crying being surrounded by absolutely stunning women and with such bad approach anxiety and self worth that it was a challenge just to hold eye contact with such beautiful women.
So months went on with me reading all your books, watching all your videos and podcasts and me chickening out to approach a beautiful girl on the street. And there were many that passed me by. Then finally again I said fuck it and took the leap and opened a stunning 23 year old English girl from Bristol. To my surprise the interaction went well and I took her out on a date. Didn’t fuck her. But 3 approaches later on my 4th approach in daygame I instant dated a Russian 8. She was 7 years younger than me, I’m 33 by the way. I could not believe it. The kind of girl I thought I had no chance with. I had a mini 2 week relationship with her and it was probably the happiest I have felt in years.
So far I have been actively daygaming for 3 months: I have done 92 approaches, 17 number closes, 12 first dates. I only banged the one Russian girl. I made out with another Russian girl, got her to the door of the hotel where she freaked out and would not come inside.
It really is a form of therapy and has changed my life for the better. When I look back and think where I was and where I am now, jesus! I was for a long time resentful towards women. I’m getting better at dealing with that. After I got that first notch early in Game I was on fire. I felt like I could approach any girl and rejection wouldn’t phase me the slightest bit. Then after a run of 30 blowouts from cold Russians the self esteem started to drop a bit.
My sticking points would be: not sexually spiking enough on the dates, not sticking in there when she hasn’t hooked or has hooked but I just hit the eject button anyway cause the vibe feels strange, finding subjects to keep stacking with and the language barrier, and hitting the eject button during the Russian minute. About 95% of the girls I have been approaching are Russian. I love Russian women too. I love how you can hang in there with the ice queens and it doesn’t even phase you one bit, very zen badass buddha. Also the humour you put in some of your videos and podcast always give me a laugh.
One day I hope to be a daygame dynamo like yourself. I know I’ve got a lot of work to do. I don’t know if you realise the positive effect you are having on a lot of men’s lives. Both with the education and experience you’re providing and your honesty with the struggles you have had in your own life. Don’t know how to thank you enough mate for showing me the light. It’s really changed my life for the better and for the first time In a long time I feel optimistic for the future. I would love to get you a few beers sometime and exchange some war stories as well as some coaching from the master himself one day. I’m in Asia at the moment but heading to the Ukraine and Russia in 4 weeks for a summer of daygame. Hopefully I can get some more notches on my belt. I’m feeling confident. Feels good to be the chooser and not the chosen.
I can’t thank you enough Tom. Keep up the great work mate.
Mr A from Australia