“She’s The One! Different from all the rest! The missing thing in my life that will make me whole. I can finally quit this Game nonsense and settle down!”
We like to think of ourselves as rational creatures but if that’s the case then why do so many men cash in their personal and financial freedoms for a hot girl based on a sudden emotional pull? Affection Addiction is the answer, that craving of oxytocin in our lives which does powerful things to our minds and bodies. Oxytocin is the siren’s song to draw you closer to the rocks of monogamy.
The selective pressure of evolution has made it so. To raise a child successfully a male temporarily pair-bonds with a female for 2-3 years during that first period critical to an infant’s survival.
To get a male to stick around and “settle” for a few years means lowering his drive to roam and pursue other females. How? As soon as a man has a child his testosterone levels drop off steeply. This drop continues the more the father is involved in child care.
Like mermaids lulling sailors towards the jagged shore with their sweet songs, consider what freedoms you’re abandoning when you next obsess about one particular girl. What price is to be paid for an impulsive emotional decision? Will your ship survive the impact?
- “One is too close to none.” Play the field, keep your options open. Go out and get leads. Date multiple girls
- Get your oxytocin from other relationships – friends, family, ex girlfriends
- Beware of emotional decision making. Let things settle before making a decision with your dick rather than your mind.