Building a harem of women (multiple non-monogamous sexual relationships) is an advanced daygamer skill in that you’re going to have to first meet, date and seduce multiple women. You’re then going to have to keep the plates spinning over time.
Think of the building process like a classic sales funnel:
First you’re going to be gathering live leads into the funnel through daygame prospecting. A small percentage of girls will accept or reject your offer immediately, but many will be in the “maybe” group of wanting to see more of what you’re about. This is where the game is played.
Daygame is literally cold calling. You are the product you’re offering. So you’ll want to improve that product as best you can but also effectively sell it on the market. Giving a girl a compliment on the street is not enough – you have to back it up with pickup skills (charisma, charm, wit, dominance, leading etc).
A percentage of these prospects will hook and give you their contact details. Think of them as qualified leads in that they’ve expressed interest in your product (you) and might be interested in taking things further.
Those qualified leads are now sitting in your phone as new contacts. It’s your job to take them further through the funnel process to convert the leads to dates, sex and beyond.
You’ll be working the leads in your phone (with ping messages) whilst at the same time getting back out there and continuing prospecting new leads for the funnel.
Taking a girl on a date (or two) is your chance to close a lead. It’s no longer about effective marketing (the initial daygame) but about making a sale. That’s what dating is all about – building compliance momentum through the right proposals and pitches in order to close fully (sex).
The complete sales funnel (from opening her on the street to closing her in the bedroom) typically takes one to two weeks if you factor in initial texting, a first date and then a second date. In countries like Russia it might take even longer.
The approximate drop-off at each stage of the sales funnel is statistically known in daygame. For an upper intermediate hustler the following percentages might well apply:
33% Open->Contact Details (1 in 3 girls will give you their details)
20% Contact Details->Date (1 in 5 qualified leads will come out on a date)
33% Date->Sex (1 in 3 of the dates ends in sex)
This works out as having to prospect between 40 and 50 girls to end up with one new sale. An advanced daygamer might improve on the funnel efficiency even further so he only needs to prospect 30 to 40 girls for a full close.
Building a harem is about one step beyond the standard daygame funnel. Lead retention means sleeping with a girl more than once in “lover” rather than “boyfriend” mode. The ongoing value that you’re offering is regarding Secret Society sex rather than provider investment.
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In Part 2 of this series I’ll go into details about the stages of the funnel from open to close and then onto retention in a harem.