How To Qualify A Girl

Flip The Script

Getting a girl to jump through your hoop and qualify herself to you is the secret sauce of pickup. A man who qualifies others demonstrates high value behaviour. He’s the interviewer not the interviewee, the buyer not the seller, the judge not the defendant.

Qualification is the pinnacle of Game as it flips the script and gets the girl chasing (or to feel like she’s chasing). A hot girl is not used to doing this and gets addicted to it. “If I’m chasing him he must be really special” she subconsciously rationalises.



You can’t just qualify a girl off the bat when you meet her for the first time. You’re going to have to generate attraction through flirting and breaking rapport to get her curious and to reach a solid hook point.

The whole point of negs/teases/challenges (IODs) is that they serve to prime the situation with her so you can qualify. 

The OG pickup artist Mystery has some classic qualification questions which I’ll often thrown in also:

  • Why am I drawn to you?
  • Is there more to you than meets the eye?
  • Who are you?
  • What makes you so damn special?
  • What else have you got going on for you apart from your looks?
  • What do you want to be when you grow up (and don’t say a princess)?


If you’ve watched my infields you’ll be familiar with the qualification questions I use during the daygame and dating:

  • How tall are you?
  • Is that your real hair colour?
  • Can you cook?
  • Are you adventurous?
  • What do you do for fun?
  • What’s the story with….?
  • Why?
  • How come you’re single?
  • Are you natural, or ‘plastic fantastic’?


Statements can also qualify a girl:

  • Plus two points….I like it
  • I’m usually into adventurous girls
  • I like people who are open-minded¬†


Delivery is key. Your voice tone must be light and playful, not serious or angry. Imagine you’re quizzing a six year old child in order for them to win a prize. You’re not meant to sound like you’re a lawyer cross-examining a witness.

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