Beginner and intermediate daygame advice is intentionally simplistic. If the girl does x then you do y. If you want to achieve effect A then use tactic B.

This one-size-fits-all teaching methodology is very useful for a guy who’s learning the fundamentals of pickup and daygame. He doesn’t need to make things overly complicated in order to drill the essentials.

The problem comes when teaching guys who are beyond intermediate level. These are daygamers who are getting laid at least once a month from under 50 approaches and have a few dozen notches on their belts. The black and white advice they’ve used in the past no longer applies to their experiences infield.

Proportionality should be a central tenant of advanced pickup theory. It’s what is meant by “being calibrated.” How much or how little of a certain daygame technique you employ based on the infield situation in front of you.

“To push or to pull, that is the question…”

An advanced daygamer begins to instinctively feel what’s needed with any one particular girl. Should he add in another attraction spike? Does the interaction need more comfort? Is she ready to be bounced and seduced?

Proportionality means nuance. It means subtlety. It means recognising that rules can be broken and rebuilt. Yes, you can walk with a girl after the initial approach. Yes, you can open with a question. Yes, you can take her on three dates. Would you tell a beginner to do any of this? No, but with calibration a good daygamer knows when (and how much) to use a specific technique.

Like with any advanced skill, this is not something you consciously think about. Infield calibration and the toolkit proportionality run on an instinctual level based on thousands of prior approaches and hundreds of dates.

In this video from South America filmed in 2016 I explain more about the stages of learning daygame:

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