50 Year Old Daygamer’s Story

This week’s daygame podcast catches up with 50 year old daygamer ‘Mr A’ from Episode #96 to hear how his “52 first dates in one year” project went. We discuss his views on settling down with one girl versus casual sex in player mode, plus how age affects your daygame and dating chances.

Follow Mr A’s journey and read his daygame memoirs here.

Book a place on the Russian bootcamps I’m doing with Mystery and Beckster in May here. Daygame meets night game with the hottest girls in the world 😉

Two Set Daygame Lay Report

Two Set Daygame Lay ReportA blast from the past with this lay report emailed from Mr F who I did a residential with in Prague in 2013. How young and innocent we were, cheers for the memories Mr F, stay horny 😉 

“I had been doing daygame on and off for 2 years in London before I bit the bullet and took a five day residential with Tom in Prague CZ. I told him that I wanted to be pushed as I was getting laid but only with girls the same SMV as me and I had anxiety to do opens in any situation that wasn’t front stopping girls alone.

It’s fair to say my anxiety was through the roof when I met him under the clock in the old town square on our first day. I was scared to meet him because I’d watched his videos and been watching Girlfriend Sequence on repeat. But he was very chill and soon calmed me down. The thing I remember the most is his eye contact to everyone, kind of strong and intense but cheeky and fun.

We did 5 hours infield a day in two sessions, talking to ten or more girls every day. I remember being knackered from all the walking, the sun and the high pressure sets in stores, girls in parks sunbathing and even some on the “beach” by the river.

On the third day we had finished getting numbers and went for a beer in a bar in the old square. As we were going to walk in Tom opened a two set of American Erasamus girls who were sitting on a bench opposite the entrance taking photos. He waved for me to come over and I did what he’d taught me the day before with talking to the friend of the main one he was next to. Both girls were age 20 and cute from Texas. His one was louder but prettier but I wasn’t complaining with mine.

He told them to join us for a drink which they did and then in the men’s toilets we had a planning chat about what to do. Stay together in the bar and then Tom would go outside with his girl to smoke and get a kiss when I would try to kiss mine in the bar.

I remember a group of Spanish guys trying to cock block by asking the girls to dance and the girls staying with us. We played table football, drank more beers and Tom kissed his girl at the bar when they went to get more drinks. Mine was more shy but she held my hand so that was a good sign. The girls were way more confident than I’m used to but Tom bantered hard and I did the comfort so it was good cop bad cop.

We walked them up to Wenceslas Square where the apartment was so we could “show them the balcony” and then it got awkward in the living room as I missed Tom’s signals to split up into our bedrooms. He was sending me text messages telling me what to do but I didn’t check my phone until later.

After a bit Tom just got up and took his girl into the kitchen to “get food.” He didn’t come back and I heard music and naughty noises from his room so I knew I had to escalate with my girl even though she was quieter. I turned up the tv in my room and tried to go for it but she’d only kiss and hug. I texted Tom back and he replied to say to tell her to sleep over.

We sleep but in the morning I woke up with her hugging me and our clothes on the floor so I went for it again and this time it was easy. Later we all sat on the balcony looking out onto the street and talking like nothing had happened. Tom wanted to go out later and daygame again but I was a wreck so we had a rest day with me walking around with a big smile on my face.”


Progress Report From Charlie (+ Lay Report)

Charlie’s one of the guys on the Beginner’s Guide To Daygame video from the summer of 2016. Here’s a progress report with stats and a lay report that he emailed me a few days ago:

“I started off this year a bit disappointed by my recent lack of daygame approaches so I spontaneously decided to go travelling around the Netherlands, Czech Republic and Poland from early February to Mid April since these countries all contained my favourite nationalities of girls. My main goal was to get my daygame skills consistently good because I would normally have to get a train to London once a week to achieve a good volume to practice on (since I live in a small city), however in the back of my mind I was feeling hopeful about getting some notches under my belt.

I spent a bit of time in the Netherlands and ended up laying a girl who I’d met previously in the UK from night game. She was really friendly and a cool/fun person but I just wasn’t that into her and felt I could do a lot better. A few weeks into the trip, and I was getting lots of numbers in Prague but getting girls to come out was another issue entirely. There were points where I was thinking “what the hell am I even doing here?” sitting alone in my Prague Airbnb, texting all these numbers which would result in girls cancelling dates at the last minute.

I took a few days off to relax and then met up with Tom and a whole bunch of other local daygamers (who’d been doing it for a really long time with fantastic results) in Poland who gave me advice and helped to give me the push I needed to keep at it with the approaches. I was now getting more girls on dates and even managed to get a lay with a really nice polish girl from a bit of drunken night game. However I was there for the daygame and after showing other daygamers my text exchanges it became obvious that my texts were too logical and boring and a lot of the time I wouldn’t invite the girl out until it was too late.

It was the second to last week of my trip and I thought fuck it. No more boring logical text exchanges. Just invite her out after a few exchanges. I went out to the town centre and saw a girl with long flowing hair and camouflage style leggings and thought to myself “oh this is perfect”. I went up and approached her and compared her colourful rainbow socks to her leggings and said that maybe she couldn’t decide what outfit to wear that day. It turned out she was a beautiful Ukrainian girl studying in the city. She hooked fairly soon and I told her a bit about myself while asking about her to keep things grounded. I told her I would like to take her out for a drink and then we exchanged numbers.

Over text she asked “Do you always talk to girls in the street?” to which I replied “Only the ones wearing crazy outfits ;)” About one text later I invited her out and she happily agreed. I told her to bring the crazy outfit and I would bring the English charm.

We met at the first venue for some ice cold Polish beers. We had a bit of normal chit chat while I began weaving in questions, dialling things up whilst fractionating. At one point I felt the conversation dying a little bit and she was starting to lose interest. I went to the toilet when I came back she was texting on her phone for about a minute so I began to text people on my phone, keeping this up even after she finished on hers. This immediately got her investing more. I then decided to bounce her to the next venue, this one being darker and more intimate.

She sat next to me, and I started comparing hand sizes and getting her to show her tattoo. I would fractionate this by showing her pictures on my phone of me and my family/friends and talking about travelling/different countries we’d been to. At a certain point I felt that she was extremely comfortable around me. I lifted her legs up over mine so that she was lying across me and then went in for the kiss. I made sure to pull away before she did and not kiss too much (simple mistakes that I had made in the past which had killed the sexual tension). I then felt that it was time to seal the deal so I suggested a movie at mine. No objections!

We went back to mine whilst having normal chit chat. I can leave what happened next to your imagination. +1

It was a fantastic night. My daygame/dating skills had reached another level. It has definitely been a roller-coaster of a trip. At this point my stats this year are as follows:  129 cold approaches, 46 numbers, 8 dates, 2 kisses and 1 lay (from daygame cold approach). I feel that’s ok for a beginner transitioning into intermediate. My goal now is to get that number below 100 whilst retaining that same quality of beautiful/feminine girls.”

Forebrain vs Hindbrain Lay Report

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An interesting lay report from a local daygamer I met up with in Riga, Latvia who goes by the name St Robert. You can follow more of his adventures here.

“I opened her in late January in Galerija Centrs mall in the heart of Riga. She was a flamenco dancer who’s studying to become an artist. As I told my usual “I stopped you because I really like the way you look. But you seem interesting. Another time we’re gonna go for some wine”, she said she has a boyfriend. “I do too” worked perfect.

A week later we met to go for some wine. As we went in my favorite date location, she rushed out. There was a strong lavender scent which caused her to have a panic attack. Turn out she sometimes has them.

She felt bad and didn’t want to ruin the date. After she calmed down I told we can either go back in or just grab a bottle of wine and go to mine. It was a bold move but it worked.

She put on some Russian “Serebro” pop music while I opened the wine. Which she decided not to drink and wanted some tea.

I treated it as a regular date and escalated as usual. She didn’t go for any physical escalation. Even getting to a kiss took a long time.

From time to time her boyfriend texted to know where she was. She was at a bar with her friends. After a while she called him to tell him she just got home and was gonna take a shower and go to sleep.

Interesting parts:

  1. She complained guys stopped pushing it once they found out she has a bf
  2. She has been on a date with another guy who stopped her on a street. While she had the same bf.

Her body language and other non-verbals said she wanted it. Her logical brain kept stopping her.

It was late, we had finished the bottle of wine and I said she could stay overnight if she behaved. “And it doesn’t mean we’re gonna have sex.” She sent a text to her mother saying “I won’t be home”. I later found out the mother replied with “It is a mistake”.

As always, I told her I don’t have any t-shirts. We went to bed. I didn’t do anything for the first 5 minutes and then…well it was an explosion. She went for it full throttle.

And…just as we finished her “moral hangover” started.

Turns out this was the first time she cheated. The other daygamer she went out with was uncalibrated and didn’t get the lay.

Main take-aways:

  1. Keep going for the number if she has a bf;
  2. Non-verbals > verbals;
  3. Calibration, calibration, calibration(push-pull)”

How To Raise A Girl’s Buying Temperature

Today’s video is about how to raise a girl’s buying temperature using daygame, dating and seduction. I explain the techniques needed to get the flames going and why the order of doing things is so important.

Here’s the free copy of my How To Flirt With Girls PDF to help get the fire started 😉

Tom Torero Flirting Guide

Email me your own sizzling daygame stories for publication on here to tom@tomtorero.com (I’ll keep your identity anonymous).

Daygame Lay Report: A Flying Fuck

Cumming early is not always bad 😉

Hi Tom,

I have just finished FaceTiming an old lead of mine who lives over in Mexico and thought I would share part of this story with you after listening to your latest podcast.

Rewind 3 years almost to spring 2015. I am walking down near Victoria train station in London and spot a petite cute little blonde girl strolling along with her suitcase. Fuck it, I jogged down and stopped her and immediately she had the biggest smile on her face. She was a Mexican girl living and studying in Ireland but visiting a friend in London. Unfortunately she was on her way to the airport but I managed to get a Facebook close and left with a little grin on my face.

After a couple of days she gave me her WhatsApp and after a couple weeks of cheeky texts & flirting she arranged to fly back to London to spend the weekend with me. Sitting at Victoria Station on the Friday night she was due to meet me, waiting for the Gatwick express to pull in, I still had it in my head that she wouldn’t come and it would most probably be a flake.

5, 10, 20 minutes went by and eventually there she was standing in front of me. We got the tube back to where I live in Zone 2 and went straight to a few local bars for drinks. It wasn’t long before we was dancing and having fun and then kissing. As the night drew to a close we headed back to mine for the lay. We spent the weekend out and about in London before she caught her flight (and hopefully nothing else) back home to Ireland on the Sunday. She has not been back since but after speaking on FaceTime tonight she is planning her next visit to see me. Three years later she still calls me by her nickname for me when we first met, her “cheeky boy.”

I’ve come a long way on my daygame journey and it is by no means complete or anywhere near the end, but through the highs and lows this will always be a memory that will stick with me forever.

This is a perfect example of what is possible and one of the many crazy things that can happen through daygame. I would never of imagined that a stranger I met on the street would fly back and spend the weekend with me two weeks later.


“Crash The Car” Toilet Pull Lay Report

Hi Tom,

I heard your podcast and thought I would send a story your way. I hope you get a kick out of this story, which isn’t amazing material, but it does have some interesting qualities of a possible “Red Letter Day” girl I had the pleasure of encountering.

This story takes place early June 2017 (almost one month before I went to your 2017 boot camp in NYC) and it happened in the small town I currently live in called XXXXX  in the USA. The town has lots of microbreweries and culture that attracts many hippies and tourists during the summer who will go for drunk adventure sex making night game and ecosystem game somewhat effective, however the town has an estimated population of less than 100,000 local people and is a piss poor area for practicing daygame. Despite the odds, I attempted daygame anyway.

So I went out on a Saturday to do one of my downtown sessions hoping to find at least 5 sets in two hours. I came across a cute blonde girl all alone laying on a blanket in the middle of a huge patch of grass at the downtown park. This girl seemed friendly and chatty and I saw her starting a conversation with a guy who seemed like he wasn’t “with” her but was just sitting in her vicinity. Almost like he was annoyed by her, he ended up leaving and I figured this was the perfect opportunity to go in.  I didn’t have to do much work, which was good because before your boot camp I wasn’t following the model well at all. I went in with a direct opener and she seemed to hook immediately with that kind of “chill dreamy” vibe you were mentioning. When I realized the conversation was going well, I sat down with her on her blanket while giving her a false time constraint inspired by Mystery Method. As we were chatting and sitting down, certain weird things about her and her situation became clear to me:

  • This girl was a 21-year-old college student.
  • She was from NYC and far away from home.
  • She got separated from her friend/hostel mate during a hiking trip and was lounging around, not doing a damn thing to try and find her.
  • Her phone was dead, but she didn’t care about getting it charged.
  • She didn’t even know where she was or how to get back to her hostel.
  • All she had was a blanket and her backpacking stuff.
  • She had nothing better to do.
  • She was wearing a white Philadelphia t-shirt, normal hiking shoes, red socks, Aviators, really short shorts, no tattoos, and her blonde hair was braided in pigtails. She did not look like one of the usual hippies I see in this town who come here to drink up the craft beer and art culture wearing dreads, tattoos, and piercings. This girl looked like a “normal” girl who all of a sudden decided to go rebellious.
  • She sounded like she wasn’t fond of her hometown situation and was breaking away.

Something about this girl was different, which I teased her about by playfully accusing her of being on drugs, which she denied. My game was worse back then, but after talking with her for a while, I decided to try and make something happen. Hoping that an SDL may be possible, I bounced her to my favorite date venue. This bar had everything. All the staff and regulars knew me (Social Proof), It was a rooftop bar and sunset time was close at hand, It had girl and guy drinks, It had couches, and It had one secluded disabled toilet. As we walked there, light frame tests began. She asked if I pick-up tourist girls and take them to bars all the time, which I replied with something similar to the “when I see something I like…life is too short” line.

We arrived at the bar and had a blast. We met some new people and drank a few drinks. She paid for most of her drinks which I admired. After that, I lead her to the most secluded couch in the bar, where I started the Questions Game, verbal escalation, and light keno eventually leading up to the kiss. Our conversations started getting deeper and more sexual, we talked about our sexual fantasies. After some fractionation, the kissing eventually turned into heavy make out on the couch and that started to turn into heavy groping on the couch. If it were anymore heated then calling it a Public Display of Affection would be an understatement. Things were happening fast and I was having to make the decision to pull the trigger or not. Since I lived 15 munites driving distance from downtown, and I was scared she might decline the offer to drive her there, I decided the disabled toilet was my only shot at the quickest possible sex. Then I wondered if it might be safer to make it a Same Day De-lay and have her meet me later in the evening after reuniting with her hostel friend. I decided to take her to the toilet and go full steam instead. I think it was Beckster who said: “If you don’t crash the car, you’ll never know how fast you can go.”

I said, “Let’s find a more secluded spot”. She complied and I lead her by the hand towards the hallway. The hallway towards the disabled toilet was baren and dimly lit. She didn’t know where I was taking her but that didn’t stop us from making out more along the way. We got right to the disabled toilet entrance where I had her pinned to the wall, she had her hand on my crotch and my hand was doing something similar. She started asking if we should be worried someone will see us. Trying to make it look like the disabled toilet wasn’t part of my plan all along, I said: “It’ll be ok, I just now had an idea”. I immediately took her right into the disabled toilet and locked the door. I somehow managed to get the clothes off pretty quickly and before I knew it we were playing with each other. I fingered her clit and she jerked me off. I got her to get on her knees and suck my dick. It was truly terrific watching a cute looking girl blow me after literally meeting her only 2 or 3 hours ago. This moment was a crowning achievement for me and a true testament to the power of game.

Regrettably, after this point, things started to unravel. She was light, so I hoisted her up onto the sink in a comfortable seated position. Just as I was about to go into my pants pocket to find the condom and get down to business, the LMR attacked with ferocity. She started questioning the whole situation and started saying “I feel like you have done this exact thing before.”  She was right, that bar and the disabled toilet has gotten me lays before and I guess, to her, I seemed like I had practice with this. Regrettably, the LMR felt too powerful for me to continue on, so I had to say “It’s ok, I understand” and we left the disabled toilet behind. We left the bar and went to get some food. The vibe was different after that. She started worrying about her hostel friend and asked if I could show her back to her hostel, which I did. Before leaving her, I tried one last time for a Same Day De-lay asking her to meet me later tonight after she gets settled. Buyers remorse likely kicked in because that meet up never happened. After rolling off for a while, I sent her a ping or two, but long story short, she flaked.

I’m sure there are many micro mistakes I probably made that resulted in this near miss, but the main thing I took away from this is that I moved things way too quickly and caused LMR to come back with a vengeance. I think I did crash the car, but the good news is, I’ve gained a better idea of how fast I can go because of it. I’ve been crashing more cars since then and still am now, but with each opportunity to fail I learn something new.

That’s my story. I hope this holds some good material for you pertaining to “Red Letter Day” girls. I am no expert, but I think this encounter may be one of those. I found it fascinating how this girl had deliberately, or maybe even subconsciously, isolated herself from “the pack” to explore and got herself “lost” in a town far away from home. Then she allows an unknown young man to take her on an adventure leading to the possibility of sex. Or maybe she was just crazy lol.

Either way, thank you for putting out this content Tom. Keep grabbing life by the horns.