Daygame City Guide: Sydney

 

Population: 4.5 million (plus 4 million tourists per year)

Daygame Season: Year-round (but September – May peak)

Daygame Hotspots:

  • Pitt Street (including mall)
  • George Street to Central Station
  • Circular Quay to Opera House
  • Darling Harbour
  • Bonus areas: Hyde Park, Bondi Junction, University of Sydney, Paddington

 

Example Date Venues:

  • Ramblin’ Rascal Tavern (underground bar), 199 Elizabeth St
  • Bavarian Beerhaus (steins of beer), 24 York St 
  • Stitch Bar (vintage cocktail bar), 61 York St

 

Where To Stay:

I usually get an AirBnB in the CBD near Pitt Street but if you’re on a budget then crash at the backpacker hostels in Kings Cross

 

Daygame Video Tour Of Sydney:

 

Read about my Australian daygame adventures in my book Torero Travels.

Daygame City Guide: Moscow

 

Population: 12 million (plus 17 million tourists per year)

Daygame Season: April – October

Daygame Hotspots:

  • Tverskaya to Okhotny Ryad mall 
  • Kuznestskiy Most
  • Nikolskaya
  • Old Arbat / New Arbat
  • Bonus areas: Patriarch Ponds, Evropeyskiy mall, Atrium mall

Avoid touristy Red Square and GUM

 

Example Date Venues:

  • Get Jerry (dark beer bar), Strastnoy Bul’var, 4
  • Let’s Rock (bar), Ulitsa Kuznetskiy Most, 4/3
  • Korobok (hidden cocktail bar), Ulitsa Bol’shaya Dmitrovka, 7/5

 

Where To Stay:

Get an AirBnB near Tverskaya / Kuznestskiy Most if you can afford it. Around New Arbat and Patriarch Ponds are also good.

 

Detailed Guide To Russian / FSU Daygame:

Daygame Mindsets

 

Tom Torero’s Key Daygame Mindsets:

1) First one’s the worst one

2) Stop predicting – go and find out

3) Go and prove yourself wrong

4) Someone is banging her – why not you?

5) Out there right now is a lonely horny Yes Girl

6) AA is good, it’s what stops other guys

7) You’ve done it before, you can do it again

8) There’s plenty to go around

9) Give to get. Spread the love

10) There are more nos than yeses 

11) She’s a naughty girl – be her secret

12) Girls want you to win

13) Daygame is good exercise 

14) Be grateful for being outside talking to girls

15) You deserve that beer / coffee / dinner afterwards 

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Watch 16+ hours of me infield all over the world using these mindsets

Daygame City Guide: London

Classic route (red): Marble Arch to Trafalgar Square (+ Covent Garden)

Extras (blue): Bond Street, Tottenham Court Road, South Bank, Holborn

 

Population: 8.7 million (plus 30 million tourists per year)

Daygame Season: Year-round

Daygame Hotspots:

  • Length of Oxford Street
  • Regent Street
  • Carnaby Street 
  • Covent Garden
  • Long Acre / Seven Dials
  • Trafalgar Square
  • Bonus areas: Tottenham Court Road, South Bank, Bond Street, Camden, King’s Road, Kensington High Street

Avoid tour group / family traps of Big Ben, London Eye, Leicester Square

 

Example Date Venues:

  • Souk Medina (Harem-like tea place), 1a Short’s Gardens
  • Lamb & Flag (Dickensian pub), 33 Rose St
  • Aqua Spirit (Rooftop cocktails), 240 Regent St

 

Where To Stay:

If you can afford it, get an AirBnB in Soho or Covent Garden. If you’re on a budget get a cheap hotel in Paddington or Earls Court.

 

London Daygame Areas Podcast:

Daygame City Guide: New York City

 

 

Population: 8.6 million (plus 60 million tourists per year)

Daygame Season: April – October

Daygame Hotspots:

  • Union Square Park to Washington Square Park
  • Barnes & Noble, Whole Foods on Union
  • NYU University campus
  • Broadway through Soho 
  • 5th Avenue & 6th Avenue 
  • Bonus areas: Colombus Circle Mall, Central Park, Williamsburg

Avoid the tourist / family crowds of Times Square

 

Example Date Venues:

  • The Half Pint (Pub), 234 Thompson St
  • The Up & Up (Cocktail bar), 116 Macdougal St
  • Tom & Jerry’s (Lounge bar), 288 Elizabeth St

 

Where To Stay:

I usually aim for an AirBnB in Greenwich Village / Soho but it’s not cheap. I’ve also stayed in Harlem to save money and taken the metro in.

 

Daygame NYC Video Guides:

 

Sneaky Bastards: Top 20 Hustle Films

Naughty boys club

I’m often asked for film recommendations with themes related to pickup and seduction. If you’re looking for purely PUA inspiration then I’ve compiled a solid list of men to emulate with women.

For my favourite films in the wider hustle / heist category I’ve put together this post of the top 20 movies related to sneaky bastards, dirty tricksters and the Art of the Con. If I’ve missed out your favourite antihero then add them below in the comments…

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The Hustler (1961) – Paul Newman hustles in the shady world of smoke-filled pool halls for glory and his sanity.

 

The Colour Of Money (1986) – Sequel to ‘The Hustler’ with Newman taking on an apprentice (Tom Cruise) who soon becomes his hustling competitor.

 

The Sting (1973) – Aspiring con man (Robert Redford) teams up with a pro (Paul Newman) to pull off a revenge heist against an old boss.

 

Get Carter (1971) – Carter (Michael Caine) is a London gangster heading to Newcastle to avenge his brother’s murder.

 

The Thomas Crown Affair (1968) – Bored millionaire Thomas Crown (Steve McQueen) plots to rob a bank without having to do any work himself.

 

The Italian Job (1969) – A British gangster (Michael Caine) plans a gold robbery in Italy using an elaborate traffic jam and some Mini Coopers

 

Butch Cassidy & The Sundance Kid (1969) – True story of two of the most likeable outlaws in history; Butch (Newman) & Sundance (Redford).

 

Goodfellas (1990) / Casino (1995) – A natural Scorsese pairing, Goodfellas is mob life power battles in NYC and Casino is the Vegas version

 

The Wolf Of Wall Street (2013) – True story of Jordan Belfort (DiCaprio) and his merry band of hustling brokers on Wall Street.

 

Jackie Brown (1997) – A very underrated Tarantino film about a flight attendant smuggling money for her pimp-like boss (Samuel L. Jackson)

 

Blow (2001) – True story of George Jung’s (Johnny Depp) rise and fall of drug trafficking for Colombia’s Medellin Cartel

 

Ocean’s Eleven (2001) – Danny Ocean (Clooney) puts together an eleven member team for an elaborate casino heist

 

The Usual Suspects (1995) – Con man Kint (Kevin Spacey) tries to convince the feds that an enigmatic ‘Keyser Soze’ is the real heist master

 

Catch Me If You Can (2002) – Based on the life of Frank Abagnale Jr (DiCaprio), a master of deception leading the FBI on a wild chase

 

Layer Cake (2004) – A London coke dealer (Daniel Craig) gets caught up in bigger hustles whilst trying to go on the straight and narrow

 

Lock, Stock And Two Smoking Barrels (1998) – Four friends lose a game of high stakes poker and resort to robbing robbers, with big consequences

 

Sexy Beast (2000) – ‘One last job’ for ex-villain Gal (Ray Winstone) masterminded by his nemesis Don (Ben Kingsley)

 

Heat (1995) – Another ‘one last heist’ plan for a master criminal (De Niro) who’s being pursued by a unhinged lieutenant (Pacino)

 

The Old Man & The Gun  (2018) – True story of Forrest Tucker (Robert Redford), a bank robber and prison escape artist into his 80s

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For some impressive TV series about the world of conmen, hustlers, grifters and tricksters then also look up the following:

Narcos (2015) – cocaine drug cartels

White Collar (2009) – ex-conman helps FBI

Sneaky Pete (2015) – another ex-con has a new identity

Peaky Blinders (2013) – post WW1 UK gang

 

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And for a daygame movie inspired by all of the above then look no further than here:

Zen And The Art Of Daygame Pickup

Pirsig with his son setting off on their expedition

A staple book of the Beat generation, Robert Pirsig’s ‘Zen And The Art Of Motorcycle Maintenance’ is a road trip classic. It’s the story of a 17 day motorbike trip through the USA by a father and son. The travelogue is interspersed with pop philosophy about the nature of experience.

Whilst being a fan of the travel side of the writing and confessing to skim reading the overly-dense philosophical passages, a daygame pickup artist can still take a lot from the main themes of the book.

Essentially there’s a contradiction in life between logic and emotion, between thinking and feeling. The author explains how he gets joy from the nuts and bolts mechanics of a motorbike whilst others simply enjoy the feelings of riding. Which one should dominate and define our lives – rational reason or unfiltered experience?

A daygamer has to face this contradiction and try to square the circle too. Should you see pickup as a science which can be broken down, examined, studied and learnt? Or should you see pickup as an art which one can only experience moment to moment?

As the book explains, neither is the answer. You have to be able to hold these two seemingly contradictory forces in your head at the same time. To be a proficient daygamer you need to know the mechanics of Game principles and hustling techniques, but then you have to transcend this rather dry theory and tap into the flow state of letting go infield.

Badass and Buddha. Mechanics and Mystery. West and East. Intent and Freedom From Outcome. Both are necessary for mastery.

Out Of The Woods

Nearly…

May the daygame gods shower down prime pussy on Mr Y from Switzerland who saved me from potential bear attacks by donating to fill up the van with diesel and keep me on the road.

If you feel a similar wave of brotherly love then my Paypal ID is my email: tom at tom torero dot com 

Battle Of The Sexes

 

This week’s pickup podcast is about recognising, understanding and winning the “game” of genetic survival and replication.

Embrace a woman’s tests. Enjoy her hypergamy (‘upgrading’). Learn the rules and loop holes in order to win.  Be the hustler, not the mark. 

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Books that cover the basic biology of male/female sexual strategies:

  • The Selfish Gene (Richard Dawkins)
  • The Red Queen (Matt Ridley)
  • The Evolution Of Desire (David Buss)
  • Sperm Wars (Robin Baker)

Taking The Plunge…

Tom,

I’m 26 and have worked my way up to a $200k job in XXXXXXX.

And I’ve never been more miserable.

I’ve been surviving on memories from 4 years ago, where I hitchhiked through the Baltics meeting beautiful girls with absolutely no money in my pocket.

Can’t tell you enough how much your Flowmad product means to me, I already loved the 4 hour work week but for some reason, adding daygame to the equation made a light come on for me.

Happy to say that I will be quitting next month to live the FLOWMAD lifestyle, no income yet but have a solid plan where I create educational products for new programmers.

I’ll living be in XXXXX all summer and would love to buy you a pint / food / whatever as a thank you if you’re in town.

If not, just want to say THANK YOU again, you changed my life.

Cheers,

Aaron